Never be enough

I'll never be enough. 

That one sentence conveys so much emotion in it. And probably for a lot of you, it starts a very familiar cycle of dark thoughts, depression and anxiety. I know it does for me if I let myself think about it.

You can look at any  time, place, or person, and you will always find someone who has at one time or another thought that they weren't enough. We have social media always showing us people who seem to have it all together. And whether we know its fake or not, theres still a part of us that believes it, and thinks that we are the only ones in the world who don't have it together. And even outside of social media, we see people who seem to have it together. They have a better house, clothes, luck, body, looks, friends, family etc. But the truth is, you can't tell what their life is really like. So many of the people I thought had it all together, really don't. Its been a trend online for a long time to be 'real' while still being completely fake.

Of course we all know about 'self love' and 'self care' how you need to 'love yourself' before you can love others, or before others can love you. And to an extent I can see how thats true. You do need to know your own worth, or someone will tell you what your worth is, and if they can give it they can take it away. But the thing is, your worth doesn't come from you. It doesn't come from what you can do, or how you look. Nothing you can do will ever change your worth. I know thats hard to believe sometimes, but its true.

The thing about 'self love' is, that when you focus on yourself, only your own problems, then you cease to focus on other people. We are designed to need people. If we exclude ourselves from others, it takes us further into bad mental and emotional health. Even if other people are the cause of your issues, you still need people. Albeit different people, but people all the same. Sometimes focusing on someone else is excactly what can help you change your mindset. Sometimes helping someone else can help you fix your own issues. 

That doesn't mean that you never focus on yourself or your own issues either, you have to take care of yourself, especially if theres no one else. Just don't believe that the world is agaisnt you, or that you have to deal with this alone. Even sometimes talking to a complete stranger can help. I'm not saying give your whole life story away, but talk about your issues. You might find you have soemthing in common.

In this day and age, its all to easy to avoid people outside of our own little circle. And even those in our circle, how well do we really know them? Everything these days happens through a screen. We as humans thrive on face to face interactions. Mental disorders, such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder. Neurological disorders such as Autism, ADHD, Aspergers, are all on the rise and have been for many years. One main cause is lack of human interaction. Real human interaction. Now thats not to say that people before technology never had these issues, but they were very very low. And it was usually the people that were loners and shunned by society, or the super rich people who shunned society, that had these issues. If we take time to talk to people, and genuinely be in the moment with them, it will change a lot. We need to bring back front porch talks, community events without a corporate agenda. We don't always need food and games to fill our time. One of the most important things we can do, is just talk.

Yeah its scary, and yeah you could get hurt again, I've been hurt many, many times by this. But I keep going, because I need people and people need me. And most of the people I've helped, it was when I was at my lowest point. Whenever I'm in a bad place, God always sends me someone who needs help worse then I do. But you have to oay attention. Be open to people.

I battle depression, and anxiety. And while yes, I will continue to battle it, its never easy. But I'm learning. And through my own issues, I've been able to help others in ways I wouldn't have been able too otherwise. Here's the thing, your mindset, and the words you use are VERY important. So don't say, even to yourself, that you HAVE depression, or that you SUFFER with it. Don't claim it and don't let it claim you. Yes, depression and anxiety are hard. Really hard, but if you let yourself believe that it is and always will be, it won't ever change. And trust me, I know, even thinking about fighting, when you are so depressed you can't even think, it feels impossible. But its not. Just changing the word you use,  can make a huge difference. Everyday, tell yourself its going to be a good day. Whether or not you believe it, doesn't matter. Its going to be a good day. No matter what happens, its going to be a good day. And yes, they could always be better, but they could also be so much worse, and you don't know how much worse, until you get there. And I know it feels like it will never end, bit I promise you it will. Take it from someone who deals with this everyday. It will end.

If you remember nothing else, remember this, 

1. Today is going to be a good day

2. Your worth is not determined by anything you do or are.

3. You need People, and you can be the reason that someone smiles. Even on your darkest days.

4. You are not alone. I promise. 

If you have any insights on this issue, go ahead and put it in the comments. ❤️‍🔥